Priorities

OK, I know this isn’t food. I have a brand-spanking-new recipe coming out tomorrow, though! Can we pretend like that makes up for me being so lazy this year? In my defense, the high from today all the way through the weekend isn’t supposed to crack 20 degrees. I’m hibernating.

Fist of all, thank you for all of the feedback I got from my rant the other day. I love a good debate…even though this blog is just supposed to be about food. No one is safe from politics anymore…I even get the occasional testy comment or email from a Vegan and want to be like, “Hey, dude(ette), I have Vegan recipes, too…” My favorites are the ones who still insist that I’m not going to Hell for killing animals (which is a view I disagree with but still respect), but that I’m going to Hell for advocating the consumption of too much fat and not enough whole grains. Hmm…I really need to get to church more often if this is some new Commandment I missed.

Look, as much as I want to just crawl into my little kitchen-hole and stay mum on the bigger issues, it’s getting harder and harder to do so. I eat this way not because it’s trendy, but because it made me and my family and my friends healthier. When I get hate mail telling me I’m a horrible person for advocating Paleo (even though, until now, I think I’ve been a jelluva lot less preachy than some) it grinds on me…and has gotten me thinking lately. Why is everyone so obsessed with “fixing” themselves while, at the same time, so effing bad at it? The point I would have liked to make the other day that I didn’t (got a little carried away with the I-hate-whiners-dealio…oops) was that if you’re going to be trying to better yourself, take a look at what is really important. Put down the Slim Fast Shake and pull up your credit report. Get a full-range check-up and actually have the doc explain your bloodwork to you. Sit down and talk to that strange dude that lives in your house (you may refer to him as your “hus-band“)…plan a date night, make time for board games, disconnect and *gasp* eat at the table. Together.

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With regards to health, I won’t pretend to be an expert. While I do work in the health care field (I run the CLVIII supply chain for a Special Forces Group), I’m an English major (ouch) with a concentration in Philosophy (double ouch). But I do hold individual health near and dear to my heart–specifically personal responsibility for one’s own health. I won’t pretend to know what the answer is (I’d like to believe Paleo is the magic bullet because it has been such a life-altering change for me, but I do understand that everyone is different and that science is extremely dynamic and we are learning new things about ourselves every day). Whether you buy into the Paleo schtick or not, though, I’m schocked at how many of my peers have forsaken health insurance like Aviva and take little to no interest in their personal health (spoiler…this is NOT OK). I don’t care if you buy into the same methods as me or not…but don’t you dare try to tell me that you can be “healthy” (cue my Pinterest rant) and eat pizza and drink beer. Oh, “it’s only in moderation,” you say? Um, BS. If you truly don’t get why this way of thinking is just asinine, then…I give up. I resent having to pay for your pill box, but there’s only so far you can get eith some people. My own family was my test case–I got my pasta-chowing, beer-guzzling father on the wagon after a year of gentle nudging…turns out all he needed was a spring free of allergies to convince him that we had something good going here. On the other had, I’ve got friends and relative alike who will, to the day they die, throw the “I want to enjoy my life!” argument…um, are you REALLY “enjoying your life” 80 pounds heavier than you were less than a decade ago? Are you really “enjoying your life” when you’re too heavy to make it up a flight of stairs without wheezing like someone with TB? Is all that pizza and pasta worth the arthritis, hormonal roller coasters, acne, or the hours on the treadmill it takes you to keep the extra weight off? Granted, we have some legislation to get people on the insurance wagon, but what’s disconcerting is that even if you force people to be insured, you can’t make them give a sh*t. (If this is you…I suggest you get your head out of you-know-where and fix it.)

A reader sent me an infographic yesterday about a research project that had been done over the course of several years, following a large group of people who had made resolutions and set goals. Not many of them managed to keep their promises to themselves (shocker) but those who did (and the nature of the goals aside) were happier, healthier, and richer than those who didn’t. If you’re one of these folks who makes the same goddamn “resolution” every goddamn year…you should probably getting your priorities straight. Either you’re doing it wrong or what you’re striving for isn’t what you really want. With regards to health, well, you know how I feel about that–weight is not an effective measure of health. For the overweight and obese, it’s a great place to start, but the only way you’ll make sustainable change is to focus on your health and performance. For me, I try to get stronger every day. That was my “resolution” last year and since then I’m put 150 pounds (!) on my Crossfit Total. This year, I want to get even better. Boom.

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No matter what you want to change this year, commit to it. Be realistic. Ask yourself the tough questions and be honest with yourself. Make a plan, and if it doesn’t work, try something else. Take a good, hard look at your priorities and stop kidding yourself. No problem has an instant fix. Stop pointing fingers at everyone and everything else besides you.

This year, take a little responsibility.

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4 responses to “Priorities

  1. The last 2 sentences of this post were the meat and (sweet) potatoes of it! Own up! I admit to failed “resolutions” but it was because of me. I know that, I’ve moved on and no longer blame other people, situations or circumstances for why I fail. It’s a tough realization, but necessary if you want to follow through.

    • Seriously…I think we’re all guilty of making promises to ourselves we don’t keep, but you just have to move on. Wile we were moving I found last year’s list…I managed to keep up with my goal to get stronger but there was some funny stuff on there, too that lasted probably 2 or 3 days 😦

  2. GREAT post. I totally agree, this country has become so lazy and the whole entitelment thing is making me crazy. Get off your tush and work for it. It won’t come in a pill while you are sitting on the couch eating out of a bag. Like you, I totally agree that everyone is different and although paleo may be great for you it may not work for me…but no matter what way of eating you choose, there are healthy options that will fit into your lifestyle…you just need to work a little at it and move your bootie. I have maintained a weight loss of over 30lbs for 2 plus years now. It is HARD, every day, some days every hour!! But bottom line is I eat healthy and excercise.Yeah,lots of mornings I would much rather stay in bed and lounge all day, but I tell you, once you are up and moving..it feels awesome..My motivation started with setting an example for my girls who I did not want to be burdened likeI was and when I stopped eating oreos and all the other processed foods I was amazed at how much better I felt mentally and physically. I do have to admit, I did a meal replacement plan for my weight loss but it is what it took to get me focused, on track and create a healthy way of eating. Oh yeah, back to your point…I totally agree…whatever method it may be…take responsibility and stick with it…you may actually learn something about yourself and find true happiness…cuz I can tell you it isn’t in a bag of chips, pizza box or coors light… Thanks again for all your wonderful recipes and your insight!

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